Whether it's divorce or separation, all couples who have kids and are breaking apart face similar challenges. In the beginning, the most significant problem can be just finding the words to express change and emotions. Telling kids that you won't be a couple anymore and that nearly everything in their lives will become profoundly changed is not easy.
An Expression Of Love compassionately reassures kids of their parent's love in the beginning and throughout the adjustment to the new family paradigm. The book is illustrated by hearts and delivers a heartfelt story of the parent's transition from together to apart without blame by acknowledging that each family member is worthy of love and wellbeing. It provides a structure of communication to explain and sustain respect and healing for all family members. This book will support kid's understanding and help the adult's discussion of the well-known and complex changes that happen when couples break up and coparent kids.
Sometimes when the transition is particularly difficult, the hardest part for a kid in emotional need is finding the words to start the conversation with parents. The journaling pages offer a safe and personal place for kids to express their thoughts and feelings. In our family, the journaling pages inspired conversations that may not have happened otherwise. My younger daughter reached out with a drawing to express her sadness that our holiday season was different than it had been for her entire life.
For parents, it can be difficult to answer their kid's questions without blaming the other parent. This book will help with those challenging moments by providing a framework of language based on compassion and respect.
This year many kids will experience their first Holiday season with parents who are no longer together. They will shift between separate homes, attend family events without one parent or the other and miss some of the things about their lives before their parents moved apart. Many will wish "things were the way they used to be," and all will have questions. An Expression Of Love will support their understanding that change is part of growth and that "family" is defined in many different ways. This book offers clarity, encourages acceptance, and reassures everyone that the love will always remain, even if it looks different than it did in the past.